Jennifer Lopez is recalling one of the most difficult periods that followed her divorce from Ben Affleck and revealing why it became a life-changing turning point.
During a candid new podcast appearance, the singer admitted that the end of her marriage forced her to stop, cancel major plans, and confront questions about herself that she had avoided for years.
Jennifer Lopez Reveals How She Coped After Divorce From Ben Affleck
Speaking on the SmartLess podcast, she recalled reaching a point where everything felt “puzzling” and wrong, leaving her with no choice but to step back and focus on herself. The singer revealed that she spent time alone trying to understand what had gone wrong.
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Looking back on that period, Lopez remembered telling herself, “You need to f—— figure yourself out. What is going on with you? Forget about everybody else. There’s nobody to blame here except yourself.”
She explained that the experience forced her to stop looking outward for answers and instead examine her own choices and behavior. According to Lopez, this period of reflection became a major turning point because it helped her recognize personal issues she had not fully understood before.
“My life blew up in my own face,” she confessed. “It was because of the choices I made, but also because of the fact that I had things that needed to change about myself that I didn’t understand or recognize that was attracting certain things and attracting a certain type of experience into my life.”
Jennifer Lopez Confesses About Her Healing Journey Post-Divorce
The actress revealed that the difficult period helped her reconnect with herself in a way she never had before. Looking back, she said she was finally able to understand and appreciate the younger version of herself. “I was able to go back to that little girl [I once was] and really look at her,” Lopez said.
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Lopez also credited her sister, Lynda Lopez, for helping her through the healing process. According to the singer, her sister encouraged her to become her own “keeper.” Reflecting on the lessons she has learned, Lopez explained, “These are all little pieces. I feel like the journey is little puzzle pieces that you fit in little by little as you sit there … and go, ‘It’s me.’”
The singer’s decision to cancel her ‘This Is Me… Live‘ tour in May 2024 became a major part of that journey. At the time, she shared an emotional message with fans, saying, “I am completely heartsick and devastated about letting you down. Please know that I wouldn’t do this if I didn’t feel that it was absolutely necessary. I promise I will make it up to you and we will all be together again.”
Today, Lopez says she is happier than she has been in years. “The past 20 years have been this one thing, the past five years have been a tumult. And the last two have been kind of the healing process from that tumult”. “The person I am today is so different from the person I was even two years ago. It’s crazy.”
Looking ahead, she said she plans to stay busy with projects that feel both “fulfilling” and “intentional” as she continues the healing journey.
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