“I Wasn’t A Great Partner”: John Legend Reveals How He Was Selfish With Wife Chrissy Teigen Initially

John Legend has been married to his wife Chrissy Teigen for nearly a decade now. However, the perfect seeming relationship was not always this way. During the episode of ‘On Purpose with Jay Shetty‘ podcast on October 17, Legend opened up about the time when he was a selfish person and didn’t treat his now wife Chrissy the way she deserved.

The duo met for the first time in 2007 on the set of his ‘Stereo‘ music video. But John wasn’t committed to the relationship in the initial phase. The relationship wasn’t exactly ideal and romantic from the start. Let’s take a look at all the confessions made by Legend on the podcast.

John Legend Was Selfish In His 20s

The ‘All Of Me‘ singer confessed that “I think I was more selfish then. I wasn’t a great partner at the beginning of our relationship. Even though I was very into her and very excited to be with her. I was still selfish. I was in my mid-20s, still not ready to fully be the committed partner that I am now.”

However, he did realize that he seriously needed to change his nature if he wanted to keep Teigen in his life. “When you stop being so selfish when you think about not only the joy you get from a situation and the pleasure you get from it, but also think about your responsibility and your commitment in that situation, you just grow and you mature.” “Part of it is it’s just a matter of time. You need time to become that person you want to be,” said Legend.

Change In The Couple’s Relationship Over The Years

“When we first met, we were very attracted to each other, and our chemistry was great, but that level of attraction is more like infatuation at the beginning of a relationship. And love, when it is able to stand the test of time, has to be deeper and more real than that,” John explained. He further said that they have been through a lot of problems in their life but it has only made them stronger. “Those tests have made us grow together and realize things about each other that we didn’t know. And going through all of that…to be able to write and sing a song called ‘I Don’t Love You Like I Used To.’ It’s different now but it’s better.”

John has gradually learned about his wife and her personality over the years: “How she reacts to stress, how she reacts to life, how she can find a joke even in the crazies. Even in grief, she’s able to find humor. I feel like you see so many things about your partner as you grow together and as you experience adversity together and what I’ve seen from her just made me love her more and value her more. She’s cooler now than I ever thought she was, just really have seen her in all kinds of situations. I just value her more, and am in awe of her more than I ever have been.”